To affect the quality of the day, that is the highest of arts.
Henry David Thoreau
We know now that there are aspects to real life in which our opinion is neither sought nor required. Sometimes, despite our best efforts and positive thinking, health, fortune, and/or peace elude us. But the one thing we do have absolute control over is the quality of our days.
Even when we’re grief stricken, racked with pain, sick from worry, deeply depressed, squeezed by circumstances—how we greet, meet, and complete each day is our choosing.
We hate to hear this.
Of course, when we’re sick, worried, grieving, depressed, or frantic, we’re not very interested in the day’s quality; we just want the misery to end. But wishing the day away is also a creative choice, even if it’s not a deliberate one.
Artists of the everyday excel in elevating the simple to the level of the Sacred. You can use whatever you have on hand—a meal, a conversation, humor, affection—to create comfort and contentment—to put a positive spin, if not on the overall quality of the day, then on critical moments of it.
For some time now, I have been conducting a top-secret experiment with life, as Thoreau suggests we do. I wanted to see just how much influence I really had on the day’s character. So, the first words I speak in the morning are: “Thank you for the gift of this wonderful day.”
Here are the initial findings, but you will not like them. Nor did I.
We knew that.
—Sarah Ban Breathnach,
author of Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy
I have the ability to start my day over whenever I choose to. I will do a mood-check at some point today, and then choose to make my day better in one way.
This is the month to plant crocus, daffodils, and tulips outdoors for next spring’s season of showing off.
Sarah Ban Breathnach
4:30–5:00 PM EST Mindful Tea & Chat
This is a continued discussion on how toxic shame hides. Among these “tree forts” for shame are arrogance, contempt, rage, patronizing, envy, people-pleasing, and the compulsive need for care-giving. This is because the underlying pain of shame, that feeling of being flawed and defective is unbearable, and we must therefore find a way to alleviate this. Becoming aware of these hiding places helps us to uncover and reveal our shame for what it is. Only when we truly get it, can we begin to talk back to these toxic internal messages and rewire our minds with new dialogue based in our own truth. Listen here.
In “What’s the Matter with Me?,” the most recent article on my Psychology Today blog, I delve into the reasons why many of us find it so hard to be good to ourselves, and offer seven tips for change. Read more here.
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